RU having fun?
Talking about fun and making it happen
List some of the things that make an experience fun, romantic or exciting for you. (eg, Good food, an adrenalin rush, a beautiful setting…)
List some of the things that make an experience fun, romantic, or exciting for your partner. (eg. Being outside, having a surprise, having a laugh…)
What are some of the things that have stopped you having more fun together recently? (eg. Caring for children, too busy, money worries…)
What could you do about the things that are stopping you having fun?
(eg, join a babysitting circle, find fun things to do at home, meet for lunch…)
What effect is not having as much fun together as you’d like having on your relationship?
What are some of the positive effects that having fun together could have on your relationship?
Planning for fun!
List ten things you would enjoy doing with your partner (or as many things as possible).
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Swap your lists with each other:
· Ask any questions you need to ask so that you really understand what your partner enjoys.
· Then take it in turns to plan a fun experience that you choose from your partner’s list. The activity you choose may not always be your idea of fun, but you’re choosing it because your partner enjoys it.
· Expect that you’ll have fun, too – even if it’s just watching your partner do something you’d never want to do! Some things may be more fun than you thought. And if not, don’t complain, because your partner will be choosing something off your list next time!
· Promise yourself you’ll protect your fun time by choosing not to argue or complain.
When you make your plans you need to think of some of the following things:
· What will you do? Do you need a plan B if the weather isn’t great?
· Where will you go and how will you get there? (Check maps etc)
· Time and date? (Check place is open)
· What arrangements need to be made in advance? (Do you need to pre-book, buy tickets, arrange baby-sitters, etc?)
· Who will make the different arrangements?
· What else do you need to do to make sure your partner has a really good time?
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List some of the things that make an experience fun, romantic or exciting for you. (eg, Good food, an adrenalin rush, a beautiful setting…)
List some of the things that make an experience fun, romantic, or exciting for your partner. (eg. Being outside, having a surprise, having a laugh…)
What are some of the things that have stopped you having more fun together recently? (eg. Caring for children, too busy, money worries…)
What could you do about the things that are stopping you having fun?
(eg, join a babysitting circle, find fun things to do at home, meet for lunch…)
What effect is not having as much fun together as you’d like having on your relationship?
What are some of the positive effects that having fun together could have on your relationship?
Planning for fun!
List ten things you would enjoy doing with your partner (or as many things as possible).
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
9.
10.
Swap your lists with each other:
· Ask any questions you need to ask so that you really understand what your partner enjoys.
· Then take it in turns to plan a fun experience that you choose from your partner’s list. The activity you choose may not always be your idea of fun, but you’re choosing it because your partner enjoys it.
· Expect that you’ll have fun, too – even if it’s just watching your partner do something you’d never want to do! Some things may be more fun than you thought. And if not, don’t complain, because your partner will be choosing something off your list next time!
· Promise yourself you’ll protect your fun time by choosing not to argue or complain.
When you make your plans you need to think of some of the following things:
· What will you do? Do you need a plan B if the weather isn’t great?
· Where will you go and how will you get there? (Check maps etc)
· Time and date? (Check place is open)
· What arrangements need to be made in advance? (Do you need to pre-book, buy tickets, arrange baby-sitters, etc?)
· Who will make the different arrangements?
· What else do you need to do to make sure your partner has a really good time?
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